Father’s Day has already come and gone, but I didn't have a chance to write a post about my father due to my travels outside of the country. Now that I’m back and have trusty wifi and a laptop, I want to take some time and write about the man who is not only my role model, but the reason I’m the gamer I am today. I encourage all of you, regardless of the day, to thank your fathers and mothers as often as possible, especially if they had a hand in you becoming a gamer.
As a gamer well into his 20s, it’s interesting to look back
at my past and think about the beginnings of my love for gaming. It may have
been nearly 23 years ago that I first popped a cart into a Sega Genesis and
began what would become a lifelong hobby and passion, but to this day I have
vivid memories of my earliest experiences as a gamer. Still, no matter how many
times I look back at my history with video games, there seems to be one
constant: my father. Without him, I wouldn’t be the gamer I am today, for it
was he who taught me how to hold a controller; it was him who introduced me to
the likes of Sonic and Mario; and it is him who, to this day, still games with
me.
Sadly, as the years go by, my father and I seem to have less
and less time to game together. Still, when we finally find the time, I always have
flashbacks of my 5-year-old self with my father sitting at my side in front of an
old CRT as we save imaginary lands from evil and build memories that will last
a lifetime. As a way to thank my father for all those wonderful memories, I
decided to write letters from each stage of my gaming life as I’ve grown to be
the gamer I am today.
Preschool Gamer
Dear Daddy,
Thanks a bunch for getting that Sega Genesis! It’s really, really
fun to play with you when you get home from work. I like playing NHL with you,
especially when I get to play as my favorite team, the Red Wings. I also really
like playing Sonic the Hedgehog. He’s really fast and cool, plus he’s my
favorite color! He is the best character because you call me your little
hedgehog when you carry me on your shoulders. My favorit-est game is Toejam & Earl cause we get to play
together a lot. The aliens make funny noises and do crazy things when they open
presents, but it’s really hard to play all by myself. I really need you to help
me get all the spaceship pieces, and it’s cool when we get to sit for a long
time and play together. Thanks a lot for letting me play games with you. It’s the
best part of the day.
Love,
Timmy
Elementary Gamer
Dear Dad,
The SNES you bought is really fun to play. I really like the
new games we have. Every morning I wake up and play Super Mario RPG: Legend of the Seven Stars before I have to catch
the bus. Sometimes I almost miss the bus because I’m playing too much and you
don’t like that, but it makes me very happy to play before school. I know that
you don’t like RPGs as much as I do, but thanks for helping me beat that boss
early in the game. Oh, and thanks taking me to Blockbuster every week to rent Earthbound. I’m not sure what’s going a
lot of the time, and it’s really hard to play, but I want to play it all day
and all night. I wish we could play these games together like we used to do,
but RPGs are for one player only. But if you ever want to play games with me we
can rent a two-player game. Or I can play my games while you watch. I like
that, too, dad. I also like Command &
Conquer on the computer, but I’m not that good at it so I like watching you
play that more, especially when Tanya blows things up. Okay, I have to go play Earthbound.
Love,
Tim
Middle School Gamer
Hey Dad,
Firstly, the N64 is awesome! The graphics are so cool, and
Mario is in 3D! Of course you already know this because you watched me play Super Mario 64 for the first time when
we brought my N64 home. It took a really long time to save up enough money from
my paper route to buy my very own console, but I did it and I was so happy to
play it for the first time. When I asked you to buy me one and you told me to
get a paper route, I thought I would never own an N64, and I was a little mad
at you. But I worked really hard, and you helped me a lot by driving me around
to houses when weather was bad. Remember when we got a few feet of snow in
winter and we delivered the papers together in a blizzard? It was hard but we
did it, and to celebrate you bought us some pop and meat sticks and the corner
market. That was fun, even though I was super tired.
Still, I got good tips that day and was able to save up the
$200 to buy the N64! And the best part is you can play a lot of games with me,
like Wave Race 64. I’ve been
practicing really hard to beat all your times and win all the races, so I hope
you’re ready to play when you get home from work. Well, it’s time to practice
my stunts in Glacier Coast as Dave Mariner (“Fatboy”).
See ya!
High School Gamer
Dad,
I don’t have as much time for video games as I used to, what
with working at Dairy Queen a lot these days, but let me know when you’re done
with the PS2 so I can continue playing Call
of Duty. I didn’t know that shooters were so fun, but those D-Day missions really
sucked me in. I didn’t think anything could drag me away from Gran Turismo 3: A-Spec or Burnout 3, but I’ve found myself playing
Call of Duty and Black more often. It seems that our schedules are opposite one
another a lot these days, plus my girlfriend wants to go out a lot (and she has
a knack for calling when I’m in the middle of a gaming session). Still, I’m
hoping one day we can continue trading missions in SOCOM: U.S. Navy SEALs. I know it’s not co-op like we usually do
but I enjoy the way you play. You’re a lot more patient and prefer stealth, but
I just can’t help but go in with guns blazing.
Speaking of guns blazing, I’m still angry with you for not
letting me buy GTA III. All my
friends are playing it and I still don’t think it’s that big of a deal – I mean,
I played Mortal Kombat as a kid and I
turned out alright. However, you say you’re doing it for my own good and you
have to draw the line somewhere, and there’s really nothing I can do about it.
I still love you even though I’m mad at you, and maybe one day I’ll understand
your reasoning, but it just doesn’t make sense to me right now. Aw crap, the
girlfriend is calling me again – and I was just about to go play Final Fantasy X. She’s probably going to
ask me to sell my games again…as if! Thanks for at least understanding that
gaming is important to me (unlike some
people).
Later,
Tim
Graduated Gamer
Hey Papa,
I can’t believe that time flies so fast. It just seems like
a few years ago we were lighting the lamp in NHL ’94 and saving up to buy an N64 together. Yet here we are, you
about to retire and me engaged to the woman I love, about to embark on another
adventure in life. It’s been a long and rocky road to this point, and while
girlfriends, seasons, schools, hairstyles, and just about everything else has changed
or gone completely, I wanted to thank you for the one constant through it all –
video games. Now I know that you’ve given me so much in my life, and believe me
I’m grateful for it all, but gaming was really the one thing that has helped
keep me sane over the last 20+ years. Growing up as an only child isn’t easy,
particularly when the summers hit, and I often turned to video games as a
source of comfort and companionship. I knew characters like Sonic, Ness, Mario,
and Cloud better than I knew a lot of my friends, and while many people may
think this is sad, it actually helped me find a place in this world.
As the years went on and I was able to get out of the house
more, I still turned to video games to get me through tough times. When I had a
tough day at school, the struggles of Zidane, Dagger, Vivi, et al to save the
world put things in perspective. And when I needed to de-stress after a long
session of doing homework, I could find that relief by dodging cops and
competitors in Need for Speed: Hot
Pursuit. So you see, video games give me a good outlet for emotions and
tough times.
That being said, the most important thing I got out of
gaming was the bond between me and you, dad. You did it right and started me
out at a young age. I know the stigma that video games have faced through the
years and that your method of bonding with me through gaming probably wasn’t a
popular one, but trust me, it was the right call. Some of my most vivid
memories are of us playing games like Toejam
& Earl and Road Rash. I can
recall sneaking peaks at the screen as you played Doom, even though I wasn’t supposed to, and of playing Command & Conquer because you did.
And to this day, one of my favorite memories is of you beating that damn
crocodile mini-boss for me early in Super
Mario RPG for the SNES. I don’t know if you remember it, but I’ll never
forget it as long as I live because it meant so much to me at the time. You
know what they say – the smallest gestures can make the difference to a child.
And as I grew up I know that we had our fair share of fights
and disagreements (GTA III, anyone?),
and we grew apart a little during the high school and college years. Still,
through those tough times I went back to video games as a source of
familiarity, safety, and comfort. Even at our worst moments when it seemed like
we’d never speak again, I had a connection to you that I could never sever.
Whenever I boot up the N64, the SNES, or even the PS3, I’m booting up a long
history of gaming that I wouldn’t have without you.
So thank you, papa. Thank you for opening my eyes to the
world of gaming at such a young age. Thank you for teaching me a valuable
lesson in responsibility by having me buy my own N64 (and then playing it with
me). Thank you for looking out for me and trying to protect me from explicit
content, even though I disagreed with you at the time. And thank you for
continuing to game with me to this day. And even though sometimes we’ve been
hundreds of miles away playing Battlefield
3 over Xbox Live, it still feels like we’re side by side, playing Sonic the Hedgehog for the first time
all over again.
Your Son,
Tim, aka – Graduated Gamer